TODAY’S CULTURE
TODAY’S CULTURE
Our competitive and superficial culture tries to make us believe that life is meaningful only when we become rich, powerful, and above all when we aren’t suffering. This is such that the person that doesn’t reach some kind of success feels frustrated, depressed, unimportant and valueless. Today, personal identity is built outside of the person, on top of our exterior image, on our appearance, on illusion; so much so that characters have substituted real persons. Flesh and blood people, instead, desire to take their neuroses into account, trying to reduce it and live with it, each day.
ANGER FROM SUFFERING
It is important to know how to manage positively the suffering from being hurt.
The first thing to do is to forgive yourself. Don’t blame yourself. Don’t feel guilty. You must abandon the conviction that you caused the suffering. You must start to treat yourself with sweetness, like you would your best friend. Doing this you eliminate the interior carnage that was created inside of you and you transform it into your protector. You begin to reestablish the interior harmony necessary to become protagonist of your life again. Only like this can you give the right name to the dynamic of the person who hurt you. This does not mean forgiving or excusing or forgetting the person. It is giving the right name to the hurt, discovering its meaning in your life.
Also because, as my readers know, I am convinced that we are on this earth not for pleasure or power but to give meaning to our existence, in spite of the hurt and above all through the hurt. This way we give particular meaning to our existence that only we can give.
THERE ARE NO MORE TRUE INTELLECTUALS
He who merely survives. fears defeat. He knows, deep down, that he is incapable and powerless on the psycho-spiritual level. For this reason he tries to seem sure of himself and skillful on a superficial level, to satisfy his or others’ needs.
It is not a coincidence, in this society, that people who go on TV promising liberation from needs, problems and suffering are successful. It is not a coincidence that the so-called intellectuals and superficial talk shows (and inconsistent from a psycho-spiritual point of view) are so popular. I should say, by the way, that psycho-spirituality is, in fact, ignored by this society.
He who merely survives spends his entire existence denying the fear of loss, of seeing himself in crisis, of being defeated. And to put all this into effect, on the one hand he tries to bind himself to powerful people, on the other he uses his power to dominate or bind to himself people who are weak, with little self esteem and personal dignity.
SPIRITUALLY LIVE OR SURVIVE
The person who survives, on a psycho-spiritual level, seeks to control and manipulate others. He wants to possess the other, for himself. The person, who instead, lives psycho-spiritually, renders other person free. This person leaves others to their responsibilities. This person wants others to belong to the universe, to God.
The person who survives, on the psychological level, deep down, does not trust others or humanity.
The person who lives psycho-spiritually trusts humanity, trusts in the world and thanks God for the gratuity being born.
The person who survives, on the psychological level , usually, is successful in the society and is loved ,but deep down this person is never at peace. He or she can never have peace in the heart. This person also seeks his fulfillment outside of the self, compensating for neuroses. Deep down, the person who survives is deluded into thinking he lives. To just survive, on a psycho-spiritual level, means being afraid to live.
NEVER DOMINATE ANOTHER PERSON
We human beings feel happiness and joy only when we are in contact with our spiritual sides.
After asking yourself, “Why?” thinking of your personal history, looking for the psychological keys to read it, you have to pass to the next question: “What does God want to say to me with this and what is happening to me?”
And so, we reduce personal neuroses so we can recognize and dialogue with our spiritual sides. We need to possess a free gaze, if we want to live in an authentic way. Human beings tend to flee from themselves. They prefer to delude themselves and project onto others their own guilt and responsibilities. To live, for me, means not ever dominating, controlling, or manipulating another person.
PSYCHOSPIRITUALITY
PSYCHOSPIRITUALITY
All of my thinking comes from the assumption of the existence of a spiritual part and its primacy in the person. This conviction brought me to found psycho-spirituality, convinced that one arrives to the spirit through the psyche. The study of personal history, analysis of the personality, of conscious and unconscious motivation, of various experiences with parental figures and relatives, do not resolve the problems but they become spaces where we can recognize, interpret, understand better the strength and type of needs, emotions, feelings and thoughts that go through us and make them dialogue with our spiritual sides.
I have understood all of this after 40 years of psycho-therapeutic activity, when I saw the depressed person overcome his depression and the manic heal from her mania. But neither one was able to be happy, to be at peace with themselves.
PROCESS GRIEF
Every passage in our psycho-spiritual journey begins with the end of an era. If we remain attached to a person, an era, we aren’t able to advance in our growth and we remain imprisoned in illusion, in dreams. We become sterile from the psycho-spiritual point of view. Before being able to enter into the new, we have to let go of the past, causing changes not only on the outside but above all, inside, in our souls.
We have to have the courage to let go that which has past, to let die that which is no more if we want to continue to live. If we want to be able to be reborn. If we want to go deep into ourselves to be able to be ready to carry out the mission for which we came to this earth.
VALERIOALBISETTI MY WRITING
All of the books I have written are part of a real search that has marked and marks my entire existence.
Since forever.
I use my personal experience to try to help the “spirit journeyers” in a historic time in which my contemporaries live deep crises of meaning.
A loss of hope.
I write for everyone, but above all for those that do not confuse the spiritual search with the role that they wear, that don’t settle for belonging to indoctrinated groups, that think they know everything.
I write for those who are open to learning and conversion.
By now I have reached the sunset of my earthly existence and I am aware that I have always wanted to go deep inside myself, in the persons I meet, in the things I find. And I have paid for all of this with misunderstandings, pain and suffering.
But behind this tragedy of human life I have always found the truly meaning of existence, that I try to tell through the magic of writing.
After having lived many years in the West, where I was born, I wanted to travel the world and come into contact with different cultures and civilizations. And that has rendered even more evident how my training draws from the grand tradition of myths, symbols and that which renders it easier to see spirituality in everything, in every encounter.
I don’t live God as separate from men and women.
For me everything has meaning.
FRIENDS OF VALERIOALBISETTI-THE PASSAGE IN THE JOURNEY
Every passage begins with the end of an era.
If we remain attached to a person, an era, we cannot go forward in our journey.
We remain imprisoned inside an illusion and our psycho-spirituality become sterile. Before entering a new path we have to separate ourselves from the past, provoking change not only outside of ourselves, but above all, inside. Inside our souls.
We have to have the courage to let go the things and persons that bind us.
TO KNOW OURSELVES – THE SHADOW
The shadow side, that is all that we have removed into the unconscious for fear of being rejected by influential people in our upbringing, should be known and faced to increase in awareness and wisdom, to be able to reveal all of the richness from the depths hidden in our souls.
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