UNIQUE AND IRREPEATABLE
I wrote this phrase more than 20 years ago in the book “To be Happy” published by the Paulines. But to me it still seems current. Often we delude ourselves into thinking we feel authentic emotions, while, in reality, they are induced by others, by the communication system -above all tv- and studied according to market demand. But we, seekers of meaning, friends of Valerio Albisetti, we know that our souls do not respond to pre-established social models and cannot and must not be managed by others.
In every second, our God always proposes to us, freedom.
LISTEN IN LOVE
Listening as the skill of receiving and welcoming is fundamental for putting yourself on the road toward true love. It is the skill of listening that helps us discover the other person. Listening is necessary for introspection, for knowing ourselves deeply but also for knowing our partners, for accepting them, for understanding their journeys. Listening is necessary for growth. Only after listening do we come out of our own narcissism and the perverse mechanism of projection.
CONCRETE HOPE
You cannot hope if you are not aware that you live in a situation characterized by contradictions and pain.
To hope means believing that this situation is not fatal.
It means believing you can overcome it. To hope is to plan for a free existence and to keep battling against the forces that hinder you.
To hope means believing in a better future that can be reached by men and women themselves through daily behavior.
THE VIOLENCE OF NON MEANING
People who place the center in themselves are not capable of giving true meaning to their existence.
They do not communicate authenticity.
Senselessness renders people slaves.
It brings with it a subtle violence.
It comes from interior emptiness.
Not being aware of oneself inevitably brings us to distancing ourselves and refusing the other.
The sick, closed and bad ego is a destructor.
After all, the will to destruction is none other than the will to destroy ourselves.
TRUE FRIENDS OF VALERIO ALBISETTI
I believe that you should be discerning in the type of help you offer to a friend, so that it stimulates that person’s personal growth.
It is not enough just to give.
You have to ask yourself WHY you give.
You might find out, for example, that giving is a way to compensate for your sense of guilt, inferiority or to tie the other person to you or to cover up your solitude.
True friendship makes the other grow. It renders the person autonomous and independent.
It does not mean upholding the other.
It does not mean controlling the other but rendering him or her free and open to life, without our presence.
FRIENDS OF OURSELVES
To become friends to ourselves belongs to the psychological realm, and above all the spiritual realm.
It is an interior work.
It consists in accepting, and looking straight in the face at our negative and hidden parts.
To not be ashamed of them, but to reconcile them.
A person, above all a seeker of meaning, a friend of Valerio, measures him or herself by his or her depth.
And the depth of a person takes nourishment from the parts of that person which suffer.
It is suffering with meaning that makes us grow.
NON FRIENDS 2
Non friendship sees the other person only partially; it reduces, simplifies and impoverishes the person.
It identifies the person only in his or her weak and negative parts.
The non friend perceives us only in our negative parts. He is trained and ruthless in catching them quickly.
Because, deep down, his livelihood is in this.
He is bad.
If we don’t quickly learn to become friends of ourselves, we risk identifying ourselves in what the bad person says about us.
We will not be able to defend ourselves.
RADIO INTERVIEW DOWNLOAD the 2nd
Download the second radio interview
You can download or listen to the “Ben fatto” interview on their website. To download the interview in mp3 format follow this link to the website.
FRIENDS OF VALERIO 2
To be friends can seem easy: similar personalities, common interests… but sometimes, a relationship which seemed solid can break against the rock of self affirmation or psychological misrepresentation that, even unconsciously, is put into effect towards others.
To be friends means accepting the other in his or her uniqueness and irrepeatiblity… in his or her autonomy and diversity. This implies an awareness of your own originality, which translates into a beneficial exchange of experiences.
Whoever thinks they will find a solution to their own interior unease or difficulties in friendship will easily meet delusions.
To be friends is not a state of affection but a true life choice. The choice to base one’s existence on true openness and authenticity towards others.
FRIENDS OF VALERIO
After the radio interview today I thought about opening a space dedicated to the FRIENDS OF VALERIO ALBISETTI. This space will become a point of reference for all those who feel they are my friends and who make up this big family.
Friendship as I intend it is a continuous interior journey. It is fascinating, even if it is painful.
To enter into my dimension of friendship you need to clean your heart of perverse mechanisms of the personality that mystify, take responsibility away and render a relationship with truth impossible and therefore render impossible the relationship with yourself, others, the world and God, also.
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