It’s hard for someone who wasn’t loved enough or listened to as a child to take the right distance from people and things. You either end up closing yourself in the silence and self isolation of an autistic solipsist, not able to communicate with others and envious of them, denigrating and denying them―or on the other hand― you tend to melt with others, confusing love with possession, taking strength from others and feeling like you are able to make choices and have an autonomous life. To be ourselves and others and to love truly and deeply we need the right distance, that allows us to see people and things for what they are.