The aware person does not act according to projection mechanisms. She always has herself in front of her. She is responsible for her own emotions. When a person assumes full responsibility of herself, she is no longer a victim. She cannot be the victim of anyone. But recognizing that you are no long a victim means definitively losing childish illusions, illusions that were necessary for survival. To become aware means accepting your solitude. If, on the contrary, we live with the fear of being abandoned, with the fear of dying, we are not living.