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Listening as the skill of receiving and welcoming is fundamental for putting yourself on the road toward true love. It is the skill of listening that helps us discover the other person. Listening is necessary for introspection, for knowing ourselves deeply but also for knowing our partners, for accepting them, for understanding their journeys. Listening is necessary for growth. Only after listening do we come out of our own narcissism and the perverse mechanism of...
Read MoreTRUE FRIENDS OF VALERIO ALBISETTI
I believe that you should be discerning in the type of help you offer to a friend, so that it stimulates that person’s personal growth. It is not enough just to give. You have to ask yourself WHY you give. You might find out, for example, that giving is a way to compensate for your sense of guilt, inferiority or to tie the other person to you or to cover up your solitude. True friendship makes the other grow. It renders the person autonomous and independent. It does not...
Read MoreFRIENDS OF OURSELVES
To become friends to ourselves belongs to the psychological realm, and above all the spiritual realm. It is an interior work. It consists in accepting, and looking straight in the face at our negative and hidden parts. To not be ashamed of them, but to reconcile them. A person, above all a seeker of meaning, a friend of Valerio, measures him or herself by his or her depth. And the depth of a person takes nourishment from the parts of that person which suffer. It is...
Read MoreNON FRIENDS 2
Non friendship sees the other person only partially; it reduces, simplifies and impoverishes the person. It identifies the person only in his or her weak and negative parts. The non friend perceives us only in our negative parts. He is trained and ruthless in catching them quickly. Because, deep down, his livelihood is in this. He is bad. If we don’t quickly learn to become friends of ourselves, we risk identifying ourselves in what the bad person says about us. We will not...
Read More(Italiano) NON AMICI
FRIENDS OF VALERIO 2
To be friends can seem easy: similar personalities, common interests… but sometimes, a relationship which seemed solid can break against the rock of self affirmation or psychological misrepresentation that, even unconsciously, is put into effect towards others. To be friends means accepting the other in his or her uniqueness and irrepeatiblity… in his or her autonomy and diversity. This implies an awareness of your own originality, which translates into a beneficial...
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