The ego likes security, peace, and stability while reality is infinitely intense and expansive, in continuous change. Once we have decided to live and not let lives be led, then it is exciting to be able to change ourselves, to recognize our own negative attitudes, to deconstruct and reorganize them in a new way, a natural way, adhering to our own deep feelings. If we were to truly believe that we could never change, then life would lose meaning. We would be destined to remain what we are, for the rest of our existence. By the way, many say they want to change, but few really want it.
Change has to be deep. More interior than exterior.